6 - Become the best version of yourself

 

Become the best version of yourself

What does it mean to be the best version of yourself? Does it mean living up to your potential – or is there more to it? If you’re like most people, these are the questions you’ve pondered as you search for identity, confidence and fulfilment in life. When the answers you find fall short of your expectations, you need to start asking the really important questions that lead you to understand how to maximize personal growth and become the best version of yourself. In this blog we really look into how you can start making small changes in your life currently to help you to start building the best version of you!


What does it mean to ‘become the best version of yourself’?

The statement gets thrown around a lot when reading through confidence building blogs, but what does it actually mean? Becoming the best version of yourself means getting back to your quintessential self. As straightforward as that sounds, it’s anything but: Authentic self-discovery takes courage and tenacity.

To approach your essential self, you must turn away from distracting false beliefs that cloud or distort your self-perception. (If you’re feeling anxious about self-improvement, please remember; every person is completely unique. Someone else’s life path cannot be your benchmark of success, since they have different dreams, passions and skills. There is also no roadmap or ideal outcome in life, because everyone’s path is theirs and theirs alone.)

 

Rediscovering the ‘real you’

Before you can start building the best version of yourself, you need to uncover the foundations of what essentially makes you, you. Foundations like your values, interests and passions that define who you are and where you place yourself in the world. You can try sitting in front of a mirror and ask yourself: ·

  • What activities do you enjoy?
  • Who do you enjoy being around?
  • What impact do you want to make on the world?
  • What is your happiest memory? (Be sincere and honest in your answers!) 

As you ask yourself these questions, pay attention to the way you’re feeling; if you notice negative emotions like anxiety or anger, you’re subtly telling yourself negative messages that obscure the conversation. Now let’s dig deeper into what’s driving those feelings;

Are you afraid you’ll fail at finding yourself?

Are you afraid of what you’ll find when you dig deep?

As easy and tempting it is to feel inadequate; the truth is that each of us is fully complete just as we are. It’s getting in touch with this essential self that will eventually free you from barriers, allowing you to become the best version of yourself. How do you become the best version of yourself? Once you’ve identified the person you want to be, you can plan how to become the best version of yourself.


Start with the end in mind – your ideal self – and take concrete steps to get there; read on for 12 steps on how to start bettering yourself.

1. Let go of limiting beliefs You know who you are – but do you know who you could be?

Most of us are held back by limiting beliefs: untrue thoughts we have about ourselves. By learning to recognise and let go of whatever limiting beliefs are keeping you from becoming the best version of yourself, you’re able to push forward and find the person you really are.

2. Amplify your strengths

Focus on your strengths and you’ll get even stronger in those areas, becoming more fully yourself along the way. Focusing on your strengths is also essential when you hit roadblocks – which you inevitably will – we all do, its normal. When you amplify your strengths, you remember what you’re bringing to the table, and you’ll crush the obstacles in your path.

3. Develop a growth mindset

No one is made up of only strengths. We all have personal issues that require attention if you want to be the best version of yourself. Successful people tackle this by having a growth mindset (A growth mindset means you enjoy taking on new challenges. You’re willing to put in the work to gain new abilities or increase your intelligence.). They believe that there are no weaknesses. There are only opportunities for improvement. Rather than focusing on what they do badly, they focus on how they can improve – and take action to get there. 

4. Throw out set expectations

What you believe creates your own personal view of the world, but unfortunately, sometimes our beliefs are not our own. Like most of us, you’ve built at least part of your identity based on others’ expectations. The process of internalising others’ values is unconscious, and bringing it to consciousness is the essence of learning how to be the best version of yourself. Your vision for who you want to be must be yours – no one else’s, so own who you want to be and don’t be swayed by others' views!

5. Be willing to shed your old identity

When you are determined to find your ideal self, you’re essentially raising the bar – for yourself and the people you know. Your “old self” will resist this due to feelings of insecurity and fear of the unknown. Resist the urge to cling to the familiar – the identity that’s been holding you back – and embrace a new can-do attitude

6. Tame your fears

Fear is a sneaky enemy that robs us of our in-built courage and distracts us from the present moment. Taming your fears is possible, and is necessary to better yourself. When you feel anxious, identify what you’re afraid of and write it down. Then, write down an alternative explanation that’s less scary while still being realistic. Even if your feelings don’t change right away, your mind will register the rationale. In time, the process of fact-checking your fears becomes habitual, and you become less swayed by anxiety.

7. Prioritise outcomes

Since understanding how to be the best version of yourself requires looking inward for wisdom, you won’t find yourself by gathering tons of information. Let your ideal self set the goal. Pick something plain, simple and achievable, like getting organised or reading more fiction. Making a measurable goal is one of the most effective ways to get out of your head and help start building your confidence.

8. Set reasonable goals

Prevent overwhelming yourself by setting small, measurable goals. If you’d like to lose 10 pounds and increase your productivity by 30%, break those down into smaller steps, like exercising for 20minutes a day or setting a clear daily routine. Each time you take a step toward your goal, you build self-confidence to become the best version of yourself.

9. Create empowering rituals

No one would argue that the world’s most successful athletes, entrepreneurs and leaders haven't become the best versions of themselves. There’s one thing they all have in common: they’ve developed habits that make them great. This could mean meditation or goal visualisation to put you in an empowered state of being. It always includes eating healthy and exercising. And more often than not, it includes practicing gratitude in your everyday activities.

10. Have compassion for yourself

Remember, being the best version of yourself is about you – not other people. Stop comparing yourself to others and recognise that everyone is on their own different path. If you’re not where you’d like to be, have compassion for yourself. If you’re at a crossroads, that’s fine; recognise and accept that, to then move forward and progress. Instead of scrolling through social media or getting down about a recent setback, practice self-love. Get outside and go for a walk. Do something you enjoy. Always remember to check negative self-talk and replace it with empowering words.

11. Manage yourself effectively

Part of understanding how to be the best version of yourself is learning to be your own boss through effective self-management. Effective time management sets you free from stress, steers you toward your ideal self and relieves you of others’ expectations. To stay accountable and in control of your resources, check in on your progress weekly, monthly, and yearly. Becoming your own best boss, whether that be managing your free time or your study time, makes for better all-round wellbeing!

12. Stay positive! 

As you learn how to be the best version of yourself, you’re sure to hit roadblocks and obstacles. Instead of getting discouraged, cultivate positive emotions like passion, curiosity and flexibility. Look at obstacles as opportunities instead of defeats. By staying positive, you’ll find creative solutions you’d miss if you had remained bogged down in self-defeating thoughts.

 

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